Comments on: post off: his vs. hers? how do you co-decorate? http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate Where people who love their homes click Sun, 12 Feb 2012 04:09:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jen http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3054 jen Mon, 08 Sep 2008 13:45:02 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3054 love the pic you took of the gunman and the girly kitty knick knack. so appropriate & cute! love the pic you took of the gunman and the girly kitty knick knack. so appropriate & cute!

]]> By: shelterrific » Blog Archive » help! my husband wants a baseball-themed nursery! http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3053 shelterrific » Blog Archive » help! my husband wants a baseball-themed nursery! Thu, 28 Jun 2007 15:19:34 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3053 [...] coming to us for help on this delicate matter. We’ve written about the compromises needed in he-said/she-said decor before, but it certainly gets more sticky when a little one is involved. Our basic advice would be [...] [...] coming to us for help on this delicate matter. We’ve written about the compromises needed in he-said/she-said decor before, but it certainly gets more sticky when a little one is involved. Our basic advice would be [...]

]]> By: Peggy Deras, CKD, CID http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3052 Peggy Deras, CKD, CID Sat, 05 May 2007 01:13:12 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3052 I think, if you asked any residential interior designer or kitchen/bath designer, you would learn that successful ones ARE mediators, arbitrators and counselers to their clients. I have had only one divorce during a project in 25 years of doing this, so I think I do a pretty good job of it. I should point out that my own husband and I often clash on these issues as well...Unfortunately he won't let me counsel him. ;>D Peggy I think, if you asked any residential interior designer or kitchen/bath designer, you would learn that successful ones ARE mediators, arbitrators and counselers to their clients.
I have had only one divorce during a project in 25 years of doing this, so I think I do a pretty good job of it.

I should point out that my own husband and I often clash on these issues as well…Unfortunately he won’t let me counsel him. ;>D

Peggy

]]> By: Another Beth http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3051 Another Beth Fri, 04 May 2007 19:59:16 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3051 Wow! This hit a nerve. When I was married, my then husband and I were both very opinionated about our home's design and decor. It was his house before I moved in so he won the "Overlord of the Domain" title, and I got a 8'X9' room to put my things in. Needless to say, it didn't work out with us. It is only space however we make it so much more in our heads. As long as both people have equal standing in the house decisions and both are working towards blending their individual life into a couples life then do whatever works. Personally I think that means that both people have some area that they have complete control over and are perfectly happy in individually, with the rest of the space being an eclectic mesh. Wow! This hit a nerve.

When I was married, my then husband and I were both very opinionated about our home’s design and decor. It was his house before I moved in so he won the “Overlord of the Domain” title, and I got a 8′X9′ room to put my things in. Needless to say, it didn’t work out with us.

It is only space however we make it so much more in our heads. As long as both people have equal standing in the house decisions and both are working towards blending their individual life into a couples life then do whatever works. Personally I think that means that both people have some area that they have complete control over and are perfectly happy in individually, with the rest of the space being an eclectic mesh.

]]> By: Cassie http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3050 Cassie Fri, 04 May 2007 15:08:29 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3050 I knew I was in trouble the first time I saw my husband's bedroom when we were dating. He had leopard print sheets, a 40 watt bulb in his lamp for "mood" lighting, and stereo speakers as tall as me. Needless to say, we have multiple arguments about decorating. I knew I was in trouble the first time I saw my husband’s bedroom when we were dating. He had leopard print sheets, a 40 watt bulb in his lamp for “mood” lighting, and stereo speakers as tall as me. Needless to say, we have multiple arguments about decorating.

]]> By: Erica http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3049 Erica Fri, 04 May 2007 12:45:04 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3049 Oh man, this has caused some battle royales with my husband and I. It's reeeeallly hard finding things we both like. So much so, that I get into this heightened state of frustration where I start to like things I wouldn't normally...but within the context of finding a solution (and dealing with 1000 suggestions that my husband has already shot down) I *think* that I like something simply because I was able to get him to agree. Then the dust settles in a month and I look over at the new chair/couch/table and think "eww" what was I thinking? I need to find a combo interior decorator/therapist the next time around... Oh man, this has caused some battle royales with my husband and I. It’s reeeeallly hard finding things we both like. So much so, that I get into this heightened state of frustration where I start to like things I wouldn’t normally…but within the context of finding a solution (and dealing with 1000 suggestions that my husband has already shot down) I *think* that I like something simply because I was able to get him to agree. Then the dust settles in a month and I look over at the new chair/couch/table and think “eww” what was I thinking? I need to find a combo interior decorator/therapist the next time around…

]]> By: Stacy http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3048 Stacy Fri, 04 May 2007 04:32:58 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3048 I'm really lucky, my husband and I mesh really well. There isn't a his and hers area in our home, we even share an office/studio and the design has never been an issue. Though I could ditch the futon in the office in a second and make guests stay at the local Hilton instead of with us but he wants it. I think I might be the only wife who has a 18inch Ash from Army of Darkness action figure in the living room and everyone who comes to visit thinks it belongs to my husband. I just picked up paint for the living room and he said he had picked the same color in his head. =) I’m really lucky, my husband and I mesh really well. There isn’t a his and hers area in our home, we even share an office/studio and the design has never been an issue. Though I could ditch the futon in the office in a second and make guests stay at the local Hilton instead of with us but he wants it.

I think I might be the only wife who has a 18inch Ash from Army of Darkness action figure in the living room and everyone who comes to visit thinks it belongs to my husband.

I just picked up paint for the living room and he said he had picked the same color in his head. =)

]]> By: Melissa http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3047 Melissa Fri, 04 May 2007 03:42:49 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3047 You've hit a nerve on this one. Hubby and I are both WAY too opinionated on our home. I gave up my couch when I married him (still miss it sometimes). Now are are planning a full kitchen remodel and it's entirely possible we won't both survive. I am trying to let go of the stuff I really don't care TOO much about and hold on to the really critical stuff (like avoiding granite countertops and having a bookshelf for cookbooks) You’ve hit a nerve on this one. Hubby and I are both WAY too opinionated on our home. I gave up my couch when I married him (still miss it sometimes). Now are are planning a full kitchen remodel and it’s entirely possible we won’t both survive. I am trying to let go of the stuff I really don’t care TOO much about and hold on to the really critical stuff (like avoiding granite countertops and having a bookshelf for cookbooks)

]]> By: Kristi http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3046 Kristi Thu, 03 May 2007 23:43:05 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3046 I am lucky because my boyfriend is an artist his house was expertly painted and decorated long before I moved in. Our styles seem to blend together as my large green couch looks great with the yellow dinning area etc. As for other future projects we both shop together for big purchases but for smaller purchases our tastes are pretty similiar. I am lucky because my boyfriend is an artist his house was expertly painted and decorated long before I moved in. Our styles seem to blend together as my large green couch looks great with the yellow dinning area etc. As for other future projects we both shop together for big purchases but for smaller purchases our tastes are pretty similiar.

]]> By: a.k. http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/comment-page-1#comment-3045 a.k. Thu, 03 May 2007 19:02:50 +0000 http://www.shelterrific.com/2007/05/03/his-and-hers-how-do-you-co-decorate/#comment-3045 I'm lucky because my boyfriend doesn't really care. As long as I can fit the giant tv and nintendo wii into the design plan, he's happy. I’m lucky because my boyfriend doesn’t really care. As long as I can fit the giant tv and nintendo wii into the design plan, he’s happy.

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